Programmation to get what you want in life

Some years back, I befriended an interesting colleague at my place of work.  In one of our lunchtime conversations, she told me how to get exactly what I wanted in life.  I had recently broken up with a boyfriend who was not good for me, and was looking for "Mr. Right".  I definitely did not want to make the same mistakes I had made before when it came to choosing my partner.  I wanted this time to be different, so I was fascinated with what she had to say.

My friend told me that I needed to program myself to find "him".  But how?  She told me to write down specifically what I was wanting in a partner.  She said to put the list beside my bed and read it before going to sleep each night, and again each morning as I awoke. She said to do this until I found who I was wanting.  This idea was entirely new to me, but it sounded logical.  It wasn't like she was telling me to do 25 jumping jacks in my underclothes, or stand on my head outside my apartment yelling at each passerby.

I decided to do what she said that very night.  Writing the list forced me to really think about who I wanted to be with, what specific characteristics I wanted.  It was so much fun.  It was like buying a new car or house.  We put so much thought into what we want when we buy cars or houses, yet when it comes to finding a life partner, we seem to leave it all to chance with little to no thought ahead of time as to what we want and whether he or she would be good for us, or we for them.

I made my list.  I wrote down things like good sense of humor, tall (because I'm tall), dark haired, pleasing to the eye (I didn't want to get too greedy), good with money, understanding of my health (as I had some serious health problems), wanting children, kind, considerate, good with his family and a few other items that were important to me.  It was like I was placing an order.

My list really cemented in my mind, and clarified what characteristics were important to me, plus I had this huge expectation that I was going to find him.  I was so invigorated!  Each time I met a cute, tall, dark haired man, I wondered to myself if he was the one.  Within a matter of days, I met a cute, short, medium brown haired guy who asked me out on a date.  As you can see, he wasn't quite what I had "ordered", but I was willing to bend the rules and give him a try.  He was sweet and kind and truly there was nothing to complain about with him, yet he was not the man I had "programmed" myself to meet.  He wasn't the one and I knew it.

What happened to the cute, short, medium brown haired guy?  Did I stay with him despite the fact that he wasn't whom I'd ordered?  Did things work out after all?  Stay tuned.  The answer to this, and how I've continued to use programmation to get what I want in life, will be in my next blog!